From "Unreasonablefaith.com"

"I Once Believed This

It is to my shame that I once enthusiastically agreed with these teachings. For many years I commanded my wife to not have a job and kept her home alone to “take care of the house” even though we had no children. When she did not do something I requested, I would lecture her on God’s commandments on submission. “I didn’t choose to be a man,” I’d say, “but God put me in charge and you must obey me.”

Yes, I was thoroughly brainwashed."

I would like to venture that it is not the church's fault you are a dick. That is all.